"Make Your
Life a Gift to Others, Not to Seek Yourselves, but to
Give Yourselves to Others: This is the School of Love"
Question and Answer
Session with Christian Action Youth
H.H. Benedict XVI
October 30, 2010
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Boy's question: Your Holiness, what does it mean to grow up? What
must I do to grow following Jesus? Who can help me?
Benedict XVI: Dear Friends of Italian Catholic Action! I am
simply delighted to meet with you; you are here in great numbers in this
beautiful piazza and I thank you from my heart for your affection! I
offer my welcome to all of you! In particular I greet the president,
Professor Franco Miano, and the general assistant, Monsignor Domenico
Sigalini. I greet Cardinal Angelo Bagnasco, president of the Italian
bishops' conference, the other bishops, priests, the educators and
parents who wanted to come with you.
I heard the question of the young member of Children's Catholic Action.
The best answer to the question about what it means to grow up is on
your jerseys, your caps, your signs: "There is more." This motto of
yours, which I did not know, makes me think. What does a child do to see
if he has gotten bigger? He compares his height with his friends' and
imagines becoming taller to feel more grown up. I, when I was a boy of
your age, was one of the smallest in my class, and much more did I have
the wish to one day to be very big; and not only big in terms of the
measuring stick, but I wanted to do something big, something more in my
life, even if I did not know this saying "There is more." Growing taller
implies this "There is more." You are told this by your heart, which
wants to have a lot of friends, which is happy when you behave well,
when you know how to bring joy to dad and mom, but above all when it
meets a friend who is incomparable, very good and unique, Jesus.
You know how Jesus loved children and young people! One day, many
children like you came up to Jesus, because they were very drawn to him
and in his eyes they saw God's love reflected. But there were also
adults who were upset by these children. This also happens to you
sometimes, when you play, have fun with your friends, the grown-ups tell
you not to disturb them... Well, Jesus rebukes those adults and tells
them: Leave all these children alone, because they have in their heart
the secret of the Kingdom of God. So, Jesus taught the adults that you
too are "great" and that the adults have to protect this greatness,
which is having a heart that loves Jesus. Dear children, dear young
people: being "big" means loving Jesus very much, listening to him and
talking to him in prayer, meeting him in the sacraments, in Holy Mass,
in confession; it means getting to know him more and more and also
letting others know about him, it means standing with our friends, the
poorest ones too, the sick ones, to grow together.
And Children's Catholic Action is part of that "more," because you are
not alone in loving Jesus -- there are many of you, we see that this
morning too! -- but help each other; because you don't want to let any
friend be alone, but you want to tell everyone that it is great having
Jesus as a friend and it is great being friends with Jesus; and it is
great being together, helped by your parents, priests, leaders! In this
way you will truly grow up, not only because your height increases, but
because your heart opens to the joy and love that Jesus gives you. And
thus you open up to truly being big, being in God's great love, which is
always also loving our friends. Let us hope and pray that we grow in
this way, to find the "more" and to be truly persons with a big heart,
with a great Friend who gives his greatness to us too. Thank you.
Young woman's question: Your Holiness, our teachers in Catholic
Action tell us that to grow up it is necessary to learn to love, but
often we fail and we suffer in our relationships, in our friendships, in
our first loves. But what does it mean to love totally? How can we learn
to love truly?
Benedict XVI: A great question. It is very important, I would say
fundamental, to learn to love, truly to love, to learn the art of real
love! In adolescence we stop before the mirror and we notice that we are
changing. But if you continue to look at yourself, you will never grow
up! You grow up when you do no longer let the mirror be the only truth
about you but when you let your friends tell you. You will grow up if
you are able to make your life a gift to others, not to seek yourselves,
but to give yourselves to others: this is the school of love. This love,
however, must bring you into that "more" that today shout to everyone.
"There is more!" As I have already said, I too, in my youth wanted
something more than what the society and the mentality of the time
presented to me. I wanted to breathe pure air, above all I desired a
beautiful and good world, like our God, the Father of Jesus, wanted for
everyone. And I understood more and more that the world becomes
beautiful and good if one knows this will of God and if the world
corresponds to this will of God, which is the true light, beauty, love
that gives the world meaning.
It is quite true: You cannot and must not adapt yourselves to a love
reduced to a commodity to be consumed without respect for oneself or for
others, incapable of chastity and purity. This is not freedom. Much of
the "love" that is proposed by the media, on the internet, is not love
but egoism, closure, it gives you the illusion of a moment, but it does
not make you happy, it does not make you grow up, it binds you like a
chain that suffocates more beautiful thoughts and sentiments, the true
desires of the heart, that irrepressible power that is love and that has
its maximum expression in Jesus and strength and fire in the Holy
Spirit, who enflames your lives, your thoughts, your affections. Of
course it demands sacrifice to live love in the true way -- without
renunciation one does not find this road -- but I am certain that you
are not afraid of the toil of a challenging and authentic love. It is
the only kind that, in the final analysis, gives true joy! There is a
test that tells you whether your love is growing in a healthy way: If
you do not exclude others from your life, above all your friends who are
suffering and alone, people in difficulty, and if you open your heart to
the great friend Jesus.
Catholic Action also teaches you the roads to take to learn authentic
love: participation in the life of the Church, of your Christian
community, loving your friends in the Children's Catholic Action group,
in Catholic Action, availability to those of your age at school, in the
parish or in other environments, the company of the Mother of Jesus,
Mary, who knows how to guide your heart and lead you along the way of
good. Moreover, in Catholic Action, you have many examples of genuine,
beautiful, true love: Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, Blessed Alberto
Marvelli; love that also leads to the sacrifice of one's life, like with
Blessed Pierina Morosini and Blessed Antonia Mesina.
Young people of Catholic Action, aspire to big goals, because God gives
you the strength. "More" is being young people and children who decide
to love like Jesus does, to be the protagonists of our own lives,
protagonists in the Church, witnesses of the faith to those who are your
age. "More" is the human and Christian formation that you experience in
Catholic Action, which unites spiritual life, fraternity, public witness
to the faith, ecclesial communion, love for the Church, collaboration
with the bishops and priests, spiritual friendship. "Growing up
together" speaks of the importance of being part of a group and a
community that helps you to grow, to discover your vocation and to learn
true love. Thank you.
Teacher's question: Your Holiness, what does it mean to be an
educator today? How should we face the difficulties that we face in our
service? And how can we do it in a way that everyone concerns themselves
with the present and the future of the new generations? Thank you.
Benedict XVI: A big question. We see the problem of education in
this situation. I would say that being educators means having a joy in
your heart and communicating it to all to make life beautiful and good;
it means offering reasons and objectives for the journey of life,
offering the beauty of the person of Jesus and making others fall in
love with him, his way of life, his freedom, his great love full of
confidence in God the Father. It means above all always keeping the goal
of every existence high toward that "more" that comes from God. This
demands a personal knowledge of Jesus, a personal, daily, loving contact
with him in prayer, in meditation on God's Word, in fidelity to the
sacraments, to the Eucharist, to confession; it demands communicating
the joy of being in the Church, of having friends to share not only
problems but also the beautiful things and surprises of the life of
faith.
You know well that you are not the children's owners but servants of
their joy in the name of Jesus, guides to him. You have received the
mandate from the Church for this task. When you join Catholic Action you
say to yourselves and to everyone that you love the Church, that you are
disposed to share responsible with the pastors of for her life and her
mission. You are good teachers if you know how to involve everyone for
the benefit of the young people. You cannot be self-sufficient but you
must make the urgency of the education of the young generations felt at
all levels. Without the presence of the family, for example, you risk
building on sand; without the cooperation of the school you cannot form
a deep understanding of the faith; without the involvement of the
various influences on the young people's free time and communication
your patient work risks not being effective, of not impacting daily
life. I am certain that Catholic Action is deeply rooted in the region
and has the courage to be salt and light. Your presence here this
morning tells not only me but everyone that it is possible to educate,
that it is difficult but beautiful to give enthusiasm to young people
and to the littlest ones. Have the courage, I would like to say,
audacity, not to allow any place to be without Jesus, his tenderness
that you make everyone experience, even the most needy and abandoned,
with your mission as educators.
Dear Friends, in conclusion I thank you for having participated in this
meeting. I would like to stay with you a little longer because when I am
in the midst of such joy and enthusiasm, I too am full of joy, I feel
rejuvenated! But unfortunately time passes quickly, others await me. But
in my heart I am with you and remain with you! And I invite you, Dear
Friends, to continue in your journey to be faithful to the identity and
purpose of Catholic Action. The strength of God's love can accomplish
great things in you. I assure you of remembrance in my prayer and I
entrust you to the maternal intercession of the Virgin Mary, Mother of
the Church, so that like her you can bear witness that "there is more,"
the joy of a life full of the presence of the Lord. Thank all of you
from my heart!
[Translation by Joseph G. Trabbic]
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